Nick_K wrote:

Joel wrote:having time pressures does make you more focused. and my training is targetted.. i don't have the time for "just riding", pretty much every time i jump on a bike it has a training purpose. i am either riding hard.. or not riding.

That is the most depressing post Ive read in a long while

however i enjoy riding hard, so it works for me. if i did not enjoy it.. i would not be doing it.

A friend of mine does adventure racing and his training is definitely straining his marital relations. The issue of course is the time commitment required in doing the amount of training necessary, even getting up at 4:30 in the morning on the weekday, he still has to spend weekends training.
The real evil here is not training or family, its work it takes up too much time

I concur.

I always laugh when my girl says "what the hell do ou want to ride before work for? I'm a professional cyclist, I ride PROFESSIONAL hours!".

musket wrote:I concur.

I always laugh when my girl says "what the hell do ou want to ride before work for? I'm a professional cyclist, I ride PROFESSIONAL hours!".

Joel wrote:

Nick_K wrote:

Joel wrote:having time pressures does make you more focused. and my training is targetted.. i don't have the time for "just riding", pretty much every time i jump on a bike it has a training purpose. i am either riding hard.. or not riding.

That is the most depressing post Ive read in a long while

however i enjoy riding hard, so it works for me. if i did not enjoy it.. i would not be doing it.

I've seen you doing those hard rides and often wondered why you never take an easy day. With all that training its a shame your never seem to use the fitness in a race - your wife must spend a fortune at the hairdressers but

SteveC wrote:

Joel wrote:

Nick_K wrote:

Joel wrote:having time pressures does make you more focused. and my training is targetted.. i don't have the time for "just riding", pretty much every time i jump on a bike it has a training purpose. i am either riding hard.. or not riding.

That is the most depressing post Ive read in a long while

however i enjoy riding hard, so it works for me. if i did not enjoy it.. i would not be doing it.

I've seen you doing those hard rides and often wondered why you never take an easy day. With all that training its a shame your never seem to use the fitness in a race - your wife must spend a fortune at the hairdressers but

yeah been a crap early season for me... life as always, interupting... hoping things sort out through october

Lynskey wrote:I gots to thinking I did. Endurance sport takes up a lot of time. This must surely put strain on marital relations, especially if you work full time. I know personally my lady is very supportive of my sports, but she warns me I'm not allowed to do Ironman anytime soon . Do you lads find that the sport distances you from the non-endurance community, or is finding a balance easy for you? Its a topic thats always interested me, especially w.r.t triathlon, as they can appear to be (and arguably are) quite selfish sports.

You might piss your lady off even more if you just sat around the house all day eating, drinking beer and farting... Endurance sports might actually be good for your relationship, perhaps?

I believe in that case, your relationship is fucked either way. Not being there just means it's less obvious.

happybaboon wrote:

Lynskey wrote:I gots to thinking I did. Endurance sport takes up a lot of time. This must surely put strain on marital relations, especially if you work full time. I know personally my lady is very supportive of my sports, but she warns me I'm not allowed to do Ironman anytime soon . Do you lads find that the sport distances you from the non-endurance community, or is finding a balance easy for you? Its a topic thats always interested me, especially w.r.t triathlon, as they can appear to be (and arguably are) quite selfish sports.

You might piss your lady off even more if you just sat around the house all day eating, drinking beer and farting... Endurance sports might actually be good for your relationship, perhaps?

Just have to remember that especially with longterm relationships you have to put a lot into them. Just being "you" won't necessarily be enough. You may pride yourself on your physical prowess and fitness but she/he may not really give one, and the whole thing can bore them shitless. So if you're just out training/ racing the whole time, or at the pub and the rugger with your mates, and don't spend any quality or intimate time with her/him(making a real effort) then your relationship is probably stuffed Trouble is you may not even know it...

But get the quality part right, doing all that training etc (within reason) shouldn't be too much of a problem.
I can only do around 10/11hrs a week max(around 7hr atm) so am hardly too hardcore though.

Oli wrote::withstupid:

Your never going to be a winner with that attitude.

My Mrs (the beautifull Pamela) was a social Tri geek when we started going out...(training for Ironman so not that social)..I've now managed to turn her to the dark side and she just road races, she has aspirations of a national medal next year (and has won 9 races this year)..
So for us it's no big deal, infact we started heading off on our seperate long rides at 5.30am on Sunday mornings so we could could spend the Arvo together which we do..it's just asleep in front of the Telly!

I guess I'm pretty lucky, we are supportive of each other and she 'get's it'.. I'm tearing up now..

SteveC wrote:

Joel wrote:

Nick_K wrote:

Joel wrote:having time pressures does make you more focused. and my training is targetted.. i don't have the time for "just riding", pretty much every time i jump on a bike it has a training purpose. i am either riding hard.. or not riding.

That is the most depressing post Ive read in a long while

however i enjoy riding hard, so it works for me. if i did not enjoy it.. i would not be doing it.

I've seen you doing those hard rides and often wondered why you never take an easy day. With all that training its a shame your never seem to use the fitness in a race - your wife must spend a fortune at the hairdressers but

Brutal..